Stay Unattached to Outcomes and Results
I am always amazed at how the EGO mind can take us on a thinking journey, in which if we give it permission can easily produce a negative mindset around our ability to manifest our most important goals and lifelong dreams. Our dreams are very important and that means that everything is on the table… our wishes, desires, joys, passions, happiness, self-confidence, etc. Yet it is when we begin to set goals to achieve our dreams that we can easily be enticed and get lost in the EGO’s thinking. This can then draw us into an inner conversation that ultimately talks us out of our dreams, at least for the near term. Some of the EGO thinking that grabs us in these moments are…
I am never going to make this happen
I do not deserve it
I am not good enough
I do not have enough money to make things happen
I do not have enough time
Time is not on my side
Maybe this is not the right time
Everyone tells me it is impossible
I think I need one more certification or degree before I go for it
My partner needs me now, the timing is not right
And it goes on….
We eventually begin to either talk ourselves out of going for it or create a scenario to self-sabotage the goal/dream, or we set ourselves up for failure because the conversation that is swirling becomes all about “Because I said so, i.e., the above statements.” The EGO mind “Collective Thought” also wants us to listen to what others are saying especially when they are giving us advice. This is the reason you never share your deepest dreams…. “What you really really desire” as most people, especially those close to you, will talk you out of it or give you reasons why not. (Note: their intentions may be good)
If it is that your dreams and desires are the very thing that lights you up, draws you into a place where your passions thrive and opens your heart to empowering you to believe that you do deserve. Knowing you deserve is key and staying in this powerful place of trust, faith and believing in yourself can quiet the EGO’s thinking and allow you to listen to your inner wisdom and intuition.
In my December 2021 blog post "The Art of Manifesting" I discuss the notion of deep faith in the notion that you do deserve to have what you deeply desire. Having deep faith in your dreams does not allow for endless thinking or over analyzing, non-belief, or negative mental models. Rather this is about deeply connecting with your heart and inner wisdom to gain the clarity you require to create and manifest your dreams.
The next step is to surrender those deepest desires to a greater force realizing that you alone cannot do it all. In simplest terms if you surrender and allow the energy around you that already through natural systems of occurrences allows plants to grow, mountains to stand tall, trees to flourish, oceans to flow and our hearts to beat. Why not just get out of the way and allow these forces to support you in manifesting your dreams?
Detaching yourself from the swirl of expectations, EGO thinking and negative mental models will provide you with the openness and wherewithal to surround yourself with the conditions that will allow you to manifest your dreams.
An open and unattached mind can hear and receive. One last suggestion… stay out of expectations as this allows you to be unattached. Expectancy is good as it is unattached and leaves you open to listen and receive.
My books offer insight into the concept of the beginner’s mind and accessing your inner wisdom… as well as the distinctions between collective thought and your natural intuition/objective psyche. They are available on Amazon in paperback, Audible and Kindle formats. "It was ME all Along, the Path to FREEDOM" and "The Dolphin Lady, the Story of a Unique Relationship”
